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Let the Toastmaster take the strain

By leaving all the worry to a Toastmaster, this will allow you to relax and enjoy your day. Here are some of the frequently asked questions that help you understand why a Toastmaster will make a difference to your day.

Q: We had not thought about having a Toastmaster at our wedding, so why should we have one?

A: Toastmasters at wedding receptions have certainly increased, probably due to the happy couple wanting their special day to be stress-free. You will also be safe in the knowledge that, should a problem occur, the Toastmaster is there to assist.

Q: What does a Toastmaster do at a wedding?

A: I effectively run the day, liaise with the venue management and help to make it a very special day for everybody. I do my very best to take the stress away from the families, especially the bride and bridegroom.

Q: What does a Toastmaster wear?

A: A hunting pink long tailed coat (which is actually red!), a white dress shirt, white bow tie, white waistcoat, white gloves, black dress suit trousers and black patent leather shoes. However, if you feel that this is too formal for you, I can wear something else.

Q: The reception venue say that they offer a Toastmaster service, so why do I need you?

A: It may be that the reception venue is only providing the Duty or Banqueting Manager to provide this service. Whereas I offer a service tailored EXACTLY to your needs. It is always your choice whether you hire me.

Q: How long in advance should we book a Toastmaster?

A: As early as possible is the simple answer, that way you avoid disappointment. But certainly as soon as possible after your date and venue have been booked.

Q: How far would you travel?

A: I will travel whatever distance you like, but that may incur some travel expenses in addition to my hire charge. However, I will tell you exactly how much the whole fee will be before you book me, thus avoiding any nasty surprises.

Q: How much then do you charge?

A: £200.

Q: Do you attend the church service? If not, what time will you arrive at the venue?

A: A Toastmaster does not normally attend the church ceremony. I will arrive at the venue at least 1 hour prior to the start of the reception. This will give me sufficient time to familiarise myself with the surroundings, the staff and be ready to receive you when you arrive.

Q: How long will you stay at our wedding reception?

A: Normally until the end of the table formalities. But if you want me to stay to the end of the first dance or even to the end of the reception, I may be able to help but this will incur an extra charge.

Q: But I am getting married at the venue not in church. Does that make a difference?

Not at all. In addition to all the usual duties shown in these FAQs, I will also ensure that your guests are seated in the room licensed for the marriage, liaise with the registrar and let the bride know that everything is ready for the ceremony to start.

Q Do we give you with a meal and, if so, where would you sit?

A: You do not have to supply me with a meal as I will be too busy to sit and eat it.

Q: What is a receiving line?

A: A receiving line is where all the guests are introduced to the parents of the bride and bridegroom and the bride and bridegroom themselves. The receiving line would normally consist of the bride's mother, the bride's father, the bridegroom's mother, the bridegroom's father, the bride and the bridegroom. However, the receiving line can be set up any way you would like, or dispensed with altogether. Remember, this is YOUR day.

Q: If we have a receiving line when would it take place?

A: In the past the receiving line was used to greet the guests when they arrived at the reception. However, now that the photography is taking longer, it is more usual to have a receiving line as your guests go in to take their places for the wedding breakfast.

Q We want a receiving line, but can we just have the bride, bridegroom, best man, and chief bridesmaid?

A: You most certainly can. Remember, this is YOUR day.

Q: There will be a member of the clergy attending our wedding, would he/she be able to say grace before our meal?

A: They most certainly would. But if there is no member of the clergy present, or they do not want to say grace, it will be my pleasure to say grace. But, like everything else, you may dispense with grace altogether. It is YOUR day.

Q: Will you announce us both into the dining area?

A: Yes. I will enter first and ask all your guests to stand to receive the bride & bridegroom. I will then escort you to your places at the top table.

Q: What if it hot and we would like the men the opportunity to remove their jackets?

A: Once everyone is seated I will make this announcement, but only at your request.

Q: We have cameras on the tables, how can we make sure that our guests use them and then know where to leave them?

A: I explain to all your guests how to use the cameras and where to leave them once they are finished.

Q: We would like to toast all our guests, when should we do this?

A: I would suggest that this is done BEFORE the starter course is cleared.

Q: We have a Guest Book for our guests to sign, where should we leave it to ensure everyone can sign it?

A: If you give the Guest Book to me, I will ensure all your guests sign it during the wedding breakfast.

Q: Do the speeches come before the meal for after?

A: It is usual for the speeches to happen after the meal, but it is becoming more popular to have them before. This will enable all the speech makers to enjoy their meal without worrying about their performance.

Q: How many toasts should we have and in what order are they made?

A: Usually there are three toasts. The first one is proposed to the bride and groom by the bride's father, or whoever has been appointed in his place. The second is proposed to the bridesmaids and best man by the bridegroom. The third is proposed to the parents of the bride and groom by the best man. However, it is becoming popular for the third toast, proposed by the best man, to be to the bride and bridegroom. And, yes, that does mean that the bride and bridegroom receive two toasts.

Q: Should the best man include any humorous toasts?

A: It is generally not thought a good idea to embarrass any of your guests. However, providing everything is kept clean, and bad language is avoided at all costs, some light banter is an acceptable way to finish off the speeches in style.

Q: Will we need a public address system for the speeches?

A: This will depend on the size of the room, but I would suggest that you should consider it. There is nothing worse than your guests straining to hear what the speaker is saying. Remember, the speeches are an important part of the occasion. Some venues will offer you a sound system, but others will not, so always check. If you are holding your reception in a marquee you will almost certainly need a sound system.

Q: When should we cut the cake?

A: If you want your cake to be served with coffee, then you would cut it after the main course has been cleared. However, if you want your cake to be served later, perhaps during the evening buffet, then you would cut it after the speeches, assuming that the speeches are after the meal.

Q: After all the table formalities are complete, what happens next?

A: I will ask everybody to stand, then escort the bride and bridegroom from the top table and out of the dining area.

If you have any questions that are not covered here, please feel free to ask.
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